I always wonder what went wrong, could it have been avoided, is it for the best, etc. All the standard voyeuristic questions that come to mind when watching a train wreck happen in real time. Usually the announcement leaves uncertain whether the event is to be regarded as a good thing for the author or not, which leaves one to ponder how best to comment and react. I suspect that many of us remain silent until the situation is clearer.
It is interesting in another way to a scientist like me. The first questions that come to my mind are:
- Was there a definitive set of behaviors visible on the blog that preceded the announcement of the event?
- Can I use those behaviors to predict other occurrences?
I.e. is there a pattern and can I use it to make predictions that are testable. (The basic definition of any theory in science - if you cannot make testable predictions, it isn't a theory but mere speculation.)
Now that I have exposed my thinking, what goes through your mind when you read of divorce on some one's blog? Are your thoughts impacted by your personal experience of divorce?
(All images from Google Image.)
It's actually really strange but this is the 2nd post I've read today questioning the act of divorcing.
ReplyDeleteI don't have any experience with divorce (and never want to be going through one) but when I read blogs where people are talking about their own divorce, I often wonder what happened that caused it. I think the voyeuristic person in me wants to know what is happening that caused such a life changing event.
I think that divorce is difficult to predict based on what a person blogging behavior since we're only getting one side of a story. These stories also tend to be biased towards the author too so when I hear of divorce, I automatically sympathize with the author since I've only read and know about their thoughts and emotions.
Ok, now I'm not sure if I'm making any sense...
I am divorced, but remarried. I will tell you that you would have never known I was getting a divorce by my blogging style because most of my friends were shocked by the news. However, I asked them if I ever talked about my marriage, they said no.
ReplyDeleteIn my case, if I didn't divorce I would have been miserable the rest of my life. There was no fixing our marriage.
I will say this -- people noticed how much happier I was the moment I separated and tell me I'm a completely different person today because of my divorce.
Based upon this post, is there something you want to share?
Re: something you want to share. Nope. I am just making an observation on the current wave of divorces amidst the blogs I read.
ReplyDelete(In fact, I am looking forward to celebrating our 35th anniversary in September. {*grin*})
I learned that separating in order to fix a marriage can only lead to divorce. It takes all the things in the marraige that were annoyances and makes them issues, issues become probelems and problems becoem full blown catastropies.
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